I have been that way my whole life - now my shrink says that I have exhausted myself in trying to make others happy and I HAVE to focus on me... What a hard task!

You sound great and that you are getting somewhere in all of your thoughts and feelings.

I had a friend (who wore me out completely) who's motto is "It's all about me".... She was always happy with herself

I can't say that yet but one day maybe we both will take what we need from life rather than giving all of ourselves to make others satisfied!