I agree, we try different attitudes, personalities, actions- and we come upon mistakes, some terrible, others smaller...we learn and adjust, until we become someone with common sense and compassion, at least a good portion of the time.

For example some people still abuse drugs or are promiscuous or violent much longer into their lives, say into their thirties, often because nothing has happened to stop them, to make them think about consequences or other people's feelings/value....others may get a DWI and be court ordered to attend rehab, meet another sober person in rehab, then spend the rest of their lives healthy together.....some are sensitive to the people they become when they are violent and stop their actions immediately..

Then there are people who hold a diagnosis such as bipolar INWARD and suffer a lack of action, a lack of social learning and do not grow..

I have done both- I have inward anger that makes me furious there is such a stigma against my illness I spend much time on PC to me that is 'my world' where my inner thoughts of feelings and illness come to play and get expressed

I have also had promiscuous behavior in which I was trying to FEEL something in a world that is lonely to me, to my heart. I was so hurt when my last sexual relationship ended I swore I would not go down that path again.

I have tried on the personality of someone who wears their heart on their sleeve and it did not go over well- I was trampled on emotionally..

Chalk that up to a learning and 'common sense' experience, I went to a new church tonight and presented my new personality that was open and fun but more guarded, more about small talk at first, more dignified- it went over great, I am so pleased with myself..

Others may start out guarded and eventually learn to open up, we are all on different paths with our personalities..

What do others think, when did common sense develop in regards to who you were going to be?