My H had a very difficult time accepting that I decided to go to therapy. He was very threaten by it, very negative, and verbally abusive. When I first started if he found out I had an appointment he would verbally attack me about it, how stupid I was for telling a stranger about stuff, and would repeatedly make fun of me sometimes in public. Since I was not all that confident in what I was doing these attacks really caused me a lot of distress. Things have gotten a lot better and he does not goes on the offensive when he finds out that I went to a session anymore. But that took me getting REALLY angry, standing up to him, drawing a very clear line in the sand, and demanding that he butt out. Unfortunately, his attacks and my resentment about them has left a big communication gap between us that could have been avoided if he were more open minded and less defensive. Even now 2.5 yrs into to it, I tend to avoid telling him when I have an appointment or to discuss things that have come up in a direct way. His reactions has made things more challenging.

rainbow I hope you can find a way to protect yourself from your H's comments. I will say that my T when I eventually told her what I was dealing had some good suggestions for flipping the attacks.