Yes Roxy there is a horrendous amount of bad "press" out there about BPD, I remember when I got my diagnosis almost wanting to do away with myself as I viewed people with bpd as manipulative and dangerous because that is what I had been told and read about bpd before. Thank goodness for therapy I have been able to work through all my negative interpretations and find out the real truth that is bpd and that to me is more like emotional dysregulation and hypersensitivity. I am 45 too but male, I have yet to meet another male with bpd I feel really different and uncomfortable at times.