I've been married for 17 years. He has been dagnosed with NPD. My father, I have now learned is NPD and probably why I tolerated the behavior for so long. I know there are things that I did that were not perfect, however, many of them were in reponse to the abuse. I know now how to better respond which is MUCH easier since he is not living with us. I have 4 children under the age of 15 that I have to protect from his abuse towards me primarily, but them also. Being a child of a N makes for a very difficult life for a child.