My Support Forums - View Single Post - Balancing Experiencing Negative Emotions and Getting Things Done

lynn P. · Jan 14, 2010, 02:37 PM

Usually with toxic relationships, there an incredible amount of drama and sometimes drama itself can be addictive - for some people especially those with the rescuer mentally, it becomes their main sense of purpose in life - trying to fix that person. So when the person finally leaves this kind of relationship, it's very common to feel empty. Those relationships are very consuming and the person's left with the feeling of - 'what now'? It's natural to go through weak moments when you remember the good times - no one's all bad, it's just the addiction that brings out the worst in them.

It takes time to get over relationships and you'll go through many different emotions, having good days and bad ones. Do you feel like you're coping well and it's not interfereing with other parts of your life? Is he going to seek treatment for his addiction? It's good to talk about your feelings - like you said so well, you got used to shutting your own feelings down because it was always, all about him. So now you need to learn how to be comfortable with your feelings, which is why you're wondering - how to tell the difference betwen normal grieving and abnormal feelings. Now you know you're safe to let everything out. You did the right thing in getting out and best of luck ((Sno-White)).