I know where you're coming from, but speaking just for me, I;ve chosen "no" for too long.
WIth every "no" my life path gets narrower.
That's precisely what I hope therapy can do for me: help me to stop avoiding, hiding away, and take a risk, say "yes" to life.
it's scary, it's a pain in the patoot, it's complex and puzzling and discouraging at times but ... gotta try.