My brain isn't working really well lately but your post started out talking about a baptizmal gown, right? You were not offered this gown because your husband's family made the judgment that either you or your husband or you both had not the faith to justify the use of that gown? Your children were babies then. They were the age to be baptized, as are the majority of children, when very small and the decision is made by the parent.

Obviously, your children are older now. Where does their opinion enter into this? I was baptized when I was 14. It was my idea because my mother told me she never bothered to have me baptized and I decided I wanted to be baptized. Then, she decided since we were going through the ceremony, my brother 12 and sister 10 should be baptized, too. I don't know how they felt about it, actually. It wasn't my fault but I'm sure they think it was. (They always tell me how I was an evil sister.)

I don't think I need to explain my point. Or is it not relevant? It seems ridiculous for her to be chasing you down now. How ........well, time to shut my mouth.