I have been thinking about this post all day. The advice you've been getting sounds more like something from the 40s/50s rather than current advice. I've never ever heard of a reputable therapist telling a client they need to pleasure their spouse, let alone such an unrealistic amount of times. 22! That every day that you don't have a period for crying out loud. I have a healthy sex life, but to be honest we haven't hit 22 times a month since our third month of marriage.

Do find a new therapist. The information you've been getting is not only unhealthy, it's unprofessional and unethical. That 22 times a month thing really disturbs me, that nut job needs to be reported.