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Jan 15, 2010, 02:21 AM
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Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: So Cal
Posts: 3,342
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Losing a close family member can be extremely traumatic. Especially if this loss was unexpected.
Being brought out of sleep to be told of this loss can make it even more painful to deal with. You are going through the grieving process right now, and believe it or not, your experiences are normal for right now. You and your family have suffered an acute stress, and everyone deals with this differently. Some folks begin to relive these moments as you are and it is very painful for them.
My suggestion is to do like KDlady stated....breathe...allow yourself to feel your feelings and allow yourself to cry. What you are experiencing, although not pleasant, is healthy and with time should resolve.
Maybe try talking with family about your visions. Allow yourself to be comforted and supported by them. Remember your Uncle fondly and maybe even write down some good times that you remember having with him.
Some people like to hold their own personal vigil for their loved ones...like a ceremony of their own. You could try this too. You could by a nice candle, find some of his favorite music and light the candle in remembrance of him. You could do it yourself, or include family members.
If it seems like you are not feeling better over time, you may want to seek some counseling.
But keep posting here, if you like. We're always available to listen and offer support.
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