Vett,
Man, I hate to see you continuing to beat yourself up over this. I'll be honest, I haven't read the details about this breakup, but I intend to. But I've lost someone I really cared about and loved very much by doing something really stupid, and I think I have an idea where your head is at. It sounds really familiar.
Vett, I hope that we're beginning to be friends here, and from one friend to another, I'll say this. You're being your own worst enemy. You made a mistake, some mistakes are worse than others, but still mistakes nonetheless. The girlfriend has chosen to not forgive you and is going out of her way to make you miserable. She'll tire of doing that eventually, sooner if she thinks it's not bothering you. Hard to do, but effective. Your kids will get over her absence a lot sooner than you will. Our kids are extremely resilient.
The good news I think, is that the pain that you feel right now will pass in time. The bad news is, that there's a bunch of crap that you have to go thru to get there. But Vett, you are very intelligent, very in touch with your feelings. You've posted advice to people here that was absolutely awesome. Don't let this be a life threatening time in your life. I know it hurts, hurts like hell. But this too shall pass, I promise.
Just get up everyday, put one foot in front of the other, and keep talking here to those who help you the most. Fake it til you make it. You have a lot of people who care a lot about you. I know, I'm one of them. You can get thru this, I know you can.
bp
"I told my psychiatrist that everyone hates me. He said I was being ridiculous - everyone hasn't met me yet."
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