I understand completely where you girls (and guy) are coming from!

My boyfriend never initiates sex, and on the very rare occasions that he does it's when i'm almost asleep. Most of the time when i hint at sex he says he's "too tired" or he's "aching too much". Which is fine, but not every time i ask!!

We've been together for coming up to 2 years. I'm 25 and he's 10 years older. We have sex about once or twice a month now, and he's never come when he's on top, only when i'm on top. So even when i do get my way i feel like i'm doing all the work. It seems like it's MY responsibility to satisfy him, and MY responsibility to satisfy myself.

Another thing that bothers me is that my ex was very much into experimenting, light bondage, tying up, blindfolding etc etc.. Whereas my current boyfriend is very "straight" (for want of a better word), he's very reluctant to try anything new.... So even when we do have sex i find it very boring.

I have spoken to my boyfriend about all of this, and told him how it makes me feel (unattractive, unloved)... and he never has much to say about it.

I love him to bits - to the extent that i want us to marry, have kids and a future... I would never cheat on him (though the thought does cross my mind quite regularly) but this really bothers me.