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Old Aug 16, 2005, 09:53 PM
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I know that as a mother, this is very tough for you, but he's 19, there's nothing you can do to save him or make him stop. If he enjoys what he's doing and doesn't want to quit, he won't. It doesn't matter how much you tell him it's hurting his health or how much you cry sad tears, it won't make him stop.

He's NOT doing this to hurt you, I promise you this much. He has an addiction, when someone is addicted to a chemical substance, they become a different person. Usually a very less desirable person. This isn't the real him, it's him on dope. All you can do is continue to love him as your child and if you pray or meditate, say prayers for him in hopes he can change.

Sometimes in life, we have to hit rock bottom in order to build our way back up to a normal life. That will probably be the case with him, as it is with most addicts. Just please try remaining strong and know that you are not alone in this fight. All of our parents (us addicts here on PC) have worried about us as you worry about your son, our parents have cried countless tears as you have for your son. I know the pain I put my parents through was hell for them, but at the time I was on dope and drinking, I couldn't understand it. All I could understand is I wanted my dope and I wanted it right then and would do anything to get it. So please know he's not doing all of this to hurt you or disappoint you. He has a problem... Until he wants help himself, nothing else will work for him.

(((((pixy)))))
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