Gosh your son sounds a lot like mine.......I wish I had some answers for you.... Maybe tough love could be an option... Or maybe suggest therapy so he can sort out his issues........

I do understand what you are going through.. I wish I had some good suggestions. My son just started to look for a job, but I know you don't want to wait l0 years for your son to pull himself together.......

I am sure you will get some great advice from the folks here at PC... I just wanted to respond because I understand what you are going through. Not that my "understanding" is all that helpful....Sometimes knowing others that are going through the same thing, sometimes helps....