It is sad, and unfortunately too many people don't take the hint that when a person isn't interested, they're not interested. The fact that he was your child's former pediatrician probably doesn't come into play as much in this relationship, since it is a former relationship and we're not talking psychotherapy here (where the boundaries are much more clear). In the medical world, the boundaries are much fuzzier.

Before you go to any extremes, however, it might be a good idea to very clearly state that (a) you are not interested in him in that way and (b) if he continues, you may feel obligated to report him to the state's medical licensing board. Don't say (b) unless you mean it, though, and you will follow through on it. You can find the phone number for your state's board of medicine in the government pages of your local phone book. One phone call and the person on the other end will help guide you through the procedure and be able to answer any of your questions (the process varies from state to state).

Some people have poor boundaries, it's that simple.

My ex has repeatedly stated that she will not call me or contact me, which is for the best for my healing right now. What can I almost reliably rely on every week from her? You guessed it... an unsolicited phone call or email. Taking some of the blame, I do pick up the cell phone, even though it has caller ID. But next time she does it, I've resolved not to.

In this case, the boundaries are about separating and individuating ourselves and our lives from one another since our relationship is over. In your case, it's about clearly communicating that you have no interest in him and that if he continues, you will have to escalate the situation to get him to realize the seriousness of your intent not to socialize with him

John