You said 'With all due respect to Jill' and then made a global statement about my person, i.e. 'she is one of the worst enablers I've seen.' That shows no respect at all.

I choose not to have an interaction with you about the veracity of your statement, though I know that in confidence I have disclosed that I have worked hard on 'caretaker/rescuer' issues in the past.

That you should choose to betray that confidence in an open forum like this after over a year of knowing me and saying that you are my friend and that you 'care' is ... well, I guess the word I'll use for now is disappointing.

As you know, I was thrust as a child into parenting my mentally ill Mother and little brother, and I CHOSE to care for my terminally ill friend, (who had no one else), until his passing.

To have labels attached to me willy-nilly, and in a critical, cavalier way, and on an open forum, is not showing respect for me at all, and I feel deeply hurt. Because you, (by your own words), seem to have some concern that Darrel likes me better than you or some such nonsense, is well, again, YOUR issue, not mine.

To invalidate the legitimacy of my post and my thought processes as being nothing more than part of my 'enabling' behavior is...., a sad reflection, again, of your issues. I took no one's 'side'. In fact, the beliefs I offered, (which are mine, are real to me, and by which I conduct my life), easily reconsiled both of your views.

I feel sad, hurt, and disappointed, Tomi. I believed better of you than this. [sad]

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