Hi. I am new here and have posted in introductions and depression forums as well as here. My OH and myself have been going through a really difficult time for a good few years now. We've only been together 8 years. We've had life events happening, plus I already had some depression and anxiety coming and going before we met and ongoing into our relationship which he really helped me with at the beginning. He has been suffering from depression linked to life events for about two/three years now, currently managing it well and nolonger on medication. My libido is zilch most of the time and I can't help but blame myself for not being as supportive and positive when he is going through depressive episode. I think I am lucky he has not self-harmed. I really don't know how to start rebuilding our relationship or if it is possible to get something of our initial attraction back.

My other relationships with family are distant - i crave their love and understanding but feel out of step with them.

Work colleagues - i find the banter and chat with colleagues difficult and never seem to be able to progress realtionships.

Friends - not applicable!

I don't know how to make things better - my OH thinks I should see the doctor and just accept that I can't make friends and don't fit in but I don't think that medication can fix me and find it hard to accept something that makes me unhappy. Everyday contacts with others are painful as I am constantly feeling bad about myself and my social skills - or lack of them!

What do people here think should be my first step? I am quite realistic and know that things are not going to massively change for me at the age I am but I really can't go on feeling like this.