well first of all the biggest mistake you made was trying to control him in oder to "fix" him. you keep him in check=better son. thats why he's getting angry, he knwos you dont like who he is and it hurts him and he knows you keep trying to make him who you want him to be.

this is just what i THINK because im a 21 year old girl who lives with amother who literally hates me, and i literally hate her. luckily my father and i get along so i havent been kicked out. but she does the same ******* thing and i can see your good intentions, but it might make your relationship with your son worse. Instead of trying to control him to do the right thing, why dont you try talking to him like a real person, not a little kid you once knew him as. because the second you treat him like a little kid he'll sense it and become defensive, offended, and angry at you.

yeah it sucks to have a kid with problems but you brought him into the world so dont kick him out because he's hurting. you will regret it the rest of your life because it will ruin any possibility of a real relationship with your son.

if you love your son talk to him like a peer, it might break the ice better than forcing him to abide by a bedtime schedule.....