Maybe you need to start out with a DBT (dialectic behavioral therapy) group. A big part of that is devoted to emotions. Recognizing the emotions that you feel, leading to ___ behavior, which often triggers secondary emotions, more ____ behavior, and becomes a huge whirlwind taking over. Another huge part of DBT is devoted to accepting your experiences. Your emotions are validated. You are human, and are doing the best that you can in this moment. But, you can do better ~ and you will do better.

Personally, I watched a couple of DBT videos when in-patient. Marsha Linehan was the moderator and I found her to be exactly what I needed. I've just made it through one complete round of DBT and am beginning my second round (There are 4 modules ~ areas covered.) . It takes time, effort, and regular practice to make it through DBT successfully. For me, success = decent mood regulation, ability to make & hold onto (healthy!) relationships, acceptance of my past experiences and forgiving myself to build self-esteem.

Hope that this wasn't too confusing and made some sense to you. Take care!