coolbrock2,

Sounds very sad to me You're both already gone emotionally.

I agree with Vickie ~ you seriously need marriage counseling. If he refuses, it's time to move out.

There are lots of resources available to those who need assistance. Contact the county that you live in, social services department, if you do require further assistance. Depending upon what areas you branch into, the county for be a great help. It can be incredibly stressful, and I'd highly recommend counseling to help you work through the emotional seesaw.

I hope that you & your husband are able to reconnect and work upon developing a healthy, happy marriage. Best wishes to you!