I suggest you read the book "ToughLove" by Phyllis and David York and Ted Wachtel. You can probably find it at your library. Or the cheapest one that Ebay has is $4.31 with free shipping. ToughLove

Another really good book about alcoholism that both you and your son should read is "Under The Influence" by Dr James Milam and Katherine Ketcham. It explains how alcoholism develops physically and how it affects the body and mind. Under The Influence

If you cannot find these in your library and do not have a Paypal account you could send me a check or money order and I would buy them on Ebay for you with my Paypal.