"That you should choose to betray that confidence in an open forum" I didn't betray a thing, Jill! Stop and think! How long have you been posting here?? How many "underdogs" have you wanted to rescue and protect?? How many times have you wanted to continue to be the "victim"? I'm not the only one that knows you are an enabler, for Pete's sake!

Now, if you remember right, I already knew all that you mentioned in your post, but it wasn't me that said anything to anyone about it at ANY time! YOU made it public!

My "label," as you call it, certainly wasn't willy-nilly since you, yourself admited to having problems in that area.

As for Darrel liking or not liking, being close to or not being close to anyone, "frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn!" It's just that I see so many similarities between the two of you that of course, he's going to gravitate towards the person that agrees with him more often than not.

Didn't you once tell me "That's right, Tomi! Make it all about YOU!" Hmmm... It wasn't about ME then and it isn't about ME now, is it, Jill? Truthfully, I don't care to follow your thought processes, thank you.

BTW, seems some feelings are being projected on me. I do not feel hurt, I've simply had enough of broken agreements of being gentle or at least polite, constant arguing, nitpicking and cop-outs. I'm not a therapist, I'm not being paid for this and I don't need to take it; simple as that! I've reached my limits!

The words "respect" and "I'm sorry" only go so far. I don't translate the word "respect" as such when someone accuses me for a choice they've made all on their own... again, projecting feelings on to me that aren't mine and accusing me of something I had nothing to do with! If it was my preference, it's because I refuse to continue to be a victim to anyone! I was that to too many people for too long a time. NEVER AGAIN if I can possibly help it!

Something else to watch for, Jill. Be careful that you not give your own power away so easily. We both know what I'm talking about, but I'm willing to elaborate if you want me to.

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