It's a lot easier said then done sometimes even if you know it is right. For may years I enable my mothers prescription drug abuse. Soon after I stopped she took her last over dose. It still haunts me to this day. Everyone told me I was doing her more harm then good. Hard to imagine that to be true given the consequences of my pulling away. I will admit that my compassion was self serving but it was also the only way I knew how at the time to care for her.

I just think the subject of compassion is complicated and if the compassion is enabling and one wants to stop the behaviour they better be ready for the consequences because some times they can be deadly. It is not for the faint of heart.