I may be in the minority here about this, but I don't see anything wrong with not making direct eye contact with your T if you feel more comfortable looking else where. Sometimes eye contact can trigger nervousness and the important thing is to communicate the issue. If you feel too vulnerable to make eye contact when talking about something particularly sensitive or intimate then do what you have to talk through it. Also early on in any relationship, it can be hard to make eye contact until you have some familiarity. I do however think that learning to develop eye contact is an invaluable skill and hard for many people who struggle with mental illness. In short, make eye contact when at all possible but don't sacrifice the communication process at the expense of social etiquette (i.e. looking your T in the eye) because they understand and you aren't the only one who doesn't make eye contact.