PLEASE DO NOT TAKE THE FOLLOWING SERIOUSLY. DISCLAIMER: CURRENTLY MANIC. It sounds like he likes the masochist role. There is a way to inflict pain on him without touching him or having sex. Next time he begs you to hurt him, give him a smile and a wink and growl "NOOO" at him...get it? I know I am going to get in trouble for this one...harmless joke. Couldn't resist.