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Elysium · Jan 17, 2010 at 04:44 AM

(((((SanitySeeker)))))

You're right....it is very complicated. It's still very difficult for me. I can hardly speak with my mother any more, and when we do speak...it is the same 4 questions. I've lost my entire family because they are all content in enabling and keeping the family unit dysfunctional. I'm the only one that seems to have been able to step away...but it hurts and it's the hardest thing I've ever done.

The consequences that you faced from making your choice to stop enabling your Mother were horrific. But her overdose and demise WAS NOT your fault, or your responsibility. Your Mother was sick, but she had choices to make. She made the decision to commit that final act. You merely stepped back out of her disease process in an effort to keep yourself healthy, but also to get yours and your Mother's relationship healthy.

I'm sorry that your Mother made that choice and was unable to see how much you cared for her.