Hey - take it easy on yourself !!! You try to schedule thinking it is a GOOD time so your kids won't have to miss school. Then u get a bomb dropped that she will meet with them alone, unscheduled, and while recovering from that, I think it is totally normal that you wouldnt think to say "Oh - if the kids dont have to be there, could we schedule at a time they won't be left alone?" I doubt I would have been quick enuff to have thought that out either.........so you did exactly what you should, u called hoping to reschedule - and left the reason WHY - showing your concern for your kids - thus making you a GOOD parent ! Yeah - it's "possible" "Mr Perfect" gets to see her first - and after she is finished reeling from his "cockiness and know-it-all attitude", me thinks you will come out WAY ahead ! :-) He may fool some of the people some of the time - but GAD's are pretty "with it" and can spot a jerk when they see one!!!! Stop banging your head on this one - YOU had your children first and foremost in your mind. GOOD MOMMY !!!!!