I am sorry to hear that you feel like someone close to you is having a hard time coming to terms with your illness. I can, when I look at it from the outside, understand how hard I am to be around and love when I am particularly unbalanced. Most likely she just needs some time. Maybe you can refer her to NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) support groups for people who have family members with mental illness. It puts her in touch with other people who have loved ones with mental health problems and they may be able to give her better insight into Bi-Polar Disorder and what to expect from someone with Bi-Polar Disorder. If you need someone to talk to while she is coming to terms with your illness please reach here or with a professional to be safe. Thank you coming here. It makes us all feel better to know there are others with similar issues.