Hi,

When someone close to you, hurts you real bad. You suffer emotional, physical, verbal abuse. How do you recover?

I'm going through this, and sometimes I am so hurt that I feel detached, numb. I try to pick myself up, nurture myself but then it happens again. I love this person a lot. Is it possible that I can recover and have a better self esteem and make this relationship succeed?

My partner tells me things like -- "I'm so fat", "My family is horrible and trash." "Nobody could ever love me". "I'm poor." "I'm only think I'm deep and smart but I'm shallow." "She tells me how pathetic I am." She let's me know that other people are better than me, her ex was better. When she's angry, I have to admit to whatever it is and say everything is my fault and that I'm sorry...

On our good days, we talk...and I tell her...that all the things she says, and the way she treats me really hurts my self esteem. She tries, but then when she's angry she does it again. She also has tendency to turn really hot and then really cold, and that hurts me a lot. I have stopped working out. I feel so depressed.

Reading all that I just wrote I feel so angry at myself. 10 years ago, I was at my ideal weight. I ate healthy, exercised, felt good about myself. Then I went through a bad relationship, my ex left me for someone else. Then a couple of months after I met my partner. Fell hard. Ended up here. I don't talk to my friends, and I don't see my family...

I am trying to find a way. To regain my stregnth, gain my self worth...I keep trying but it's not working... HELP...