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Old Jan 17, 2010, 11:39 PM
A_Long_ways A_Long_ways is offline
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Post pretty much says it all. I have never really been too good with other guys. My entire life, I've always just connected better on a friendship level with females. For some reason I just never had a "best friend" who was male. My first best friend I knew since I was a baby, and her and I stayed friends till we were 13 and I moved. I met another girl and quickly became friends with her and soon we were best friends. For some reason I just don't click with guys like I click with girls. I kinda look at other men as mostly instinct driven bags of testosterone, weak on the inside, and always putting on a show. Like I absolutely hate the guys that while you're around a group of girls they're just polite with a fake smile and a cute little joke, then when the girls walk away they say the dirtiest most perverted things about them that you could ever imagine. And you know those girls are walking away thinking how nice a guy he was, meanwhile he's just another piece of s***. I just can't respect a guy like that, and I can't be friends with someone I don't respect.

Perhaps it has to do with having pretty much no relationship with my father, I dunno. The only reason this concerns me is I don't have a guy to just talk about guy stuff with. Or to go out to bars with etc. I have a few male "friends" but they're more accurately called acquaintances. Maybe I'm a bit more emotional than other guys, but I've yet to meet one that will actually be there if I needed emotional support. It's always my female friends there for me when I'm down, and vice versa.

This whole thing leads me into the infamous "friend zone". If I meet someone I'm attracted to, I try to be nice, make her laugh, show her respect. The types of things I think are just normal for showing your interest in someone. But within the blink of an eye I'm the guy that she's "just so lucky to have as a friend". I'm not saying I don't want her friendship, just that I was kinda hoping for something more. Not that I've been looking recently, just that from my past thats what always happens.

I just don't understand why it's like a competition of who can be the biggest scumbag, and the winner gets the girl. Aren't there any normal women out there that just want a nice guy? Do they all want the dumbass with the loudest car stereo and the fakest pick-up line? I went a bit off topic, but yeah, this is mostly how I feel about 95% of other guys. Maybe it's where I live, sometimes I feel like I should've been born in middle America or something. I dunno. Perhaps this was just one big rant
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Last edited by A_Long_ways; Jan 17, 2010 at 11:51 PM.