Before I reply, accept my best wishes that you'll see through the deep pain and resentment you currently feel to find truth in this situation. It isn't easy, as I know, to face the deeply buried pain. It's challenging and courageous as well to connect the current suffering we might feel with what had happened so long ago.

You've tried very hard to make your argument logical. I could refute many "facts" you've presented, but logic is not going to ease the pain. What I would like to give you right now is a hug and the assurance that you've never lost my friendship.

We knew we would be ripping apart sensitive material on this thread. We've both gone into it knowing and willing.

I'll allow you to say it was my name-calling that ripped this wound open for you. I admit I was tearing at your scab on purpose. I wanted to get this to the surface. I'm sure it's not at all pleasant. Do you have the courage to see it through? The choice is yours to complete what you previously stated you were interested in resolving or finding someone else to work with. Or not to work on it at all......

"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but rising every time we fall." Confucius