((((((((((((((((Myzen)))))))))))))))

I have come to know you pretty well over these last several months and know that you have a pretty difficult time sharing things about your past. I wanted to say that I am really proud that you have shared this with us. We get to know eachother a little more with posts like this and this draws us closer as a "family", of sorts.

Your questions is a good one. Can we love someone that we do not trust? I think yes and no. Its like loving someone but not loving their actions. For instance, my mother used to tell me all the time that she loved me, but couldnt trust me as far as she could throw me. That would be an example of loving someone but not trusting them.

If you ask that question about a relationship like the one you described I would have to say no. I guess because I associate love, the act of love, the actions of love to be complete and utter devotion in every way. To trust another person with your deepest emotions, your fears, your dreams and to share yourself with another person in such a way I can only say that you would have to have that trust before you could fall in love with that other person. My husband is my soul mate, I honestly beleive that. We have had our ups and downs through the years but I never question, not for a minute that he is not behind me 100%. I know that he would never, ever hurt me intentionally, never.

So I guess, in my opinion, you can not love another person without the trust because I think that trust is vital part of getting to the love. Does that make sense? I hope so, I was starting to confuse myself a little. LOL.

Love,

jen