If you have doubts about your partner participating in counseling, and if you are having trouble following your threads, and if you are trying to balance work, too, here's what I would suggest:

Focus on see a psychiatrist for you for an evaluation. Try to arrange a therapist for yourself to help you sort out issues with OH. Reduce your threads to the most important one for now. Don't worry about posting.....it's only for support and assistance when you need it. We'll be here when you need us.

Get yourself feeling better first. If you feel seeing a psychiatrist (pdoc) and getting some meds to help is important, then do that first. Sound good?