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Old Jan 18, 2010, 11:56 AM
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Do others know she's your T?

My T has strict boundaries and will tell me what's appropriate or not. She will never become my friend, or invite me to dinner or lunch.

As long as neither of you cross boundaries and become more than client/T to each other, and you are both comfortable with the situation, I think it's okay.
Only my husband and my kids know. I was a little uncomfortable at first with the thoughts of a "secret" in the air. In the beginning I do not think any boundaries where crossed but I think they are now. Sitting in a friends house together among only 7 or 8 people I think is a little close. Having the option to go to her home for the next meeting or agreeing on self disclosure to make it more comfortable might be boundary crossing.

She is hoping that his kind of relationship might help me relax and open up in therapy, certainly it will and has. I think she wants to be just as friendly with me as I want to be with her. I know all the text books say that will not work but I have read the history of boundaries and they have been going back and forth for years. It all changed in the end to the way it is now mostly due to insurance companies.

But in the end I have everything to lose if ...

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