Jmo and Radio,

Yes, I agree with your feelings, and I think I knew that all along.

When my first wife abandoned me, I had a lot of pain of course, but at a deep level I was relieved. I felt that the worst might be over, and it was! I never had to go through that again.

I always said to my second daughter, "Don't go with a guy who isn't straight with you, it's not worth it." I'm close to my daughter and I've watched her put that into practise. She can make the moves, and it's a joy to see her doing it. Best of all, I don't have to see her getting hurt! Her present boyfriend is a good one, and we all get on well.

She's good in friendships too, sidestepping the trouble and holding on to genuine and caring friends. It's like she has a kind of radar. I think that people from troubled childhoods, who weren't well bonded or socialised, we don't have that sense of what's best for us, and we attract trouble like magnets. I've pretty well sorted it now, but I still see it happening to others.

Thanks for the feedback,

Cheers, M