I was never drawn to the "life of the party" type of guy, & have always gravitated towards the quiet guys sitting in the corner just observing everyone else.
Like I wrote, always- even when I was your age. Maybe I saw a part of myself in them, or maybe I just found them to be more interesting. But I guess they wouldn't be sitting there alone if most girls were like me.

You are really young, & so are the women you see falling for these types of men. I think that most young women are very impressionable & don't have the experience to appreciate a good heart. After theirs' get broken a few times, they will learn the difference. Give it time. As for now... they may be rare, but I'm sure there are other women your age out there who are like I was. (But you're probably going to have a harder time finding her in a place like NYC.)