And I wasn't really offended. I have just had many relationships where after a few months I start to figure out that the man is very uncomfortable with my motivation or grades or money etc... Then when I look back I see that they wanted me to be the submissive woman to them.

Personally, coming from a woman's perspective, a man could be a little chunky, not have the most perfect face, but still be extremely sexy to me if he does something like sticks up for me or goes for what he wants. Just took me a while to find a guy that liked those same things in a woman.