Sometimes I have to remind myself that I can be distressed *and* get things done. I know that sounds simple, but it does enable me to keep moving. The feelings are validated by this, I suppose. And it can help too. I have worked through many things while washing dishes...

You are going through a great emotional time right now. Your long term relationship just ended and you are adjusting. It takes time. Maybe this is a time when being with yourself is healing and that's what's needed. Processes take time. Adjusting takes time. Moving on is a process and it takes time too.