That's part of the frustrations. The one who had a job is actively looking, or so she says, and on unemployment, which now she claims is being garnished for an incedent three years ago. Before Christmas she said she had a job starting January 4. She went in several days in December "to train" so she would be ready to go the first working day of the new year. Then they supposedly told her the job wasn't open like they thought it would be.

The other "adults" all have a problem with reality. In the past they have all used complicated stories to cover up indiscretions and basic bad behavior. In short, I can't believe anything they tell me, even my own husband, when it comes to money.

There is really no talk of them leaving until they have a job, which doesn't look all that promising in this economy. They are also looking forward to working in the garden I planned to set up and talking about how we are going to handle next Christmas.

This weekend my husband realized how frustrating his sister's behavior is. When I pointed out that he does many of the things he was complaining about - basically not thinking of other people - he got upset. He wants to talk to her, but knows it will cause an argument. When I told him that's why I don't talk to him about things he got upset again.

I'm not looking for a way out, just trying to think of how to deal with the situation without driving myself into a depression.