I needed to post this separately.

I want to say that some of the hurtful things that have been said are really unnecessary and just plain mean. I am very dissapointed that some of the people on these forums think it is ok to be personally cruel to people when they feel justified in doing so. In my opinion, there is NO justification to personally attack another or to make judgments on someones character. That is unfair. I could say so much more but I won't because my post would be based on the anger and deep dissapointment I am feeling and it is not a proper time to post.

I will stand in defense of Jill and her character. Jill is also dealing with some very hard issues and is growing by leaps and bound. I see it in her and am sure others do to.

If anyone has a problem with her sticking up for others on this forum that that is YOUR problem and not hers. She like all of us has a right to her opinion. You got to share yours.

I did not agree with everyone on these boards when certain people where "causing problems". I thought that certain people were acting immature and being downright mean and uncaring.

I agreed with Jill in her posts regarding the matter and I still do. I don't see her as an enabler as much as a person who can look past thier own feelings and see the hurts and feelings of another. It's called compassion and understanding. It is a gift not a curse. So, sometimes maybe we coddle someone a little to long or maybe we just want to think the best of them. I would much rather be accused of being that than of being cold hearted and uncaring.

Everyone has a right to thier own opinions and views. They have a right to feel things and they have a right to express those feelings. They also have a responsibility for thier actions. They have a responsibility to other's feelings. I find it hard to believe the same people who say they were invalidated as a child can turn around and do the same thing to others and not even see it.

I will end with this. I back Jill 100%. I think her feelings and her posts were right on. If you have a problem with her than you also have a problem with me.

This place is about growing, helping, learning and supporting. It doesn't feel like that right now.

Heidu


When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.- Alexander Graham Bell