My mom has bipolar disorder, and sometimes it can be very complicated. I don't know if this is the case with you, but when my mom is manic, she can say and do things that hurt. I know she can't help it, but it's hard not to take it personally, especially because it is my mother. I mean there's what I know, and then there's what I feel and sometimes, as much as I so desparately want them to be, they aren't exactly in synch you know? I work hard to reconcile my rational mind with my emotional one.

I'm certainly not ashamed of my mother, in fact, I have infinite empathy for the pain she must endure with her illness. I can't tell you the times I wished I had a magic wand and just take it away from her. However, there are times that I also have to tend to my wounds, process the hurt, and work through the guilt that I may have triggered an episode (even though I know I can't).

My advice would be to give her some space, and let her work it out. Mental illness can't undo Love and this Love will likely bring her back to you. It did between me and my mother.

One thing that I always wished that my mother would do would be to acknowledge that it can be hard on me too, and that she loves me and respects where I am.

I've never expressed that wish to her, because I worry that might add to her burden of illness and then feel guilty about that too, but, if you feel that is something you can do, it might be something invaluable you can offer to your daughter.