I do think there is a difference in occasionally seeing them in places to seeing them at least once a week in church and than sometimes other times too in small groups, possibly at the T's house.
It is possible nothing bad will happen, but it is a huge risk, especially for a client. I am not sure what to do about this.
It is probably projection on my part, but it feels a lot like my old situation with my 1st T. He does stuff and then I am left to pick up the pieces, instead of them keeping their lives separate to begin with.
With that said, I have seen my 2nd T and my current T out and about and that is totally different, it was positive, a little uncomfortable, but okay. This is different than a planned weekly occasion like I described above.