jooker,
I wrote a letter to Oprah, wasn't really going to send it out but I wrote it as if I'd been going to send it in. I amazed myself at the trials I had gone through, the hard times, abuse, domestic violence, immigration, infertility, and then a medical malpractice and it's amazing how you find the strenght in your inner heart to endure through these sorts of things, that are really hard to go through. I think that when you question how you came through it all, you look deep within yourself and find the spirit within and the bravery that is needed to cope. What's importance is finding that spirit. You posed a wonderful question for all of us to ponder.