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Originally Posted by shezbut
Thank you for your kind words of support, Micah.
I wish that my ex would agree ~ but he just can't. He's held strong onto his standards ever since 3/06 (when I had my left temporal lobe re-sectioned for epilepsy). The effects of my brain surgery were significant. That type of surgery is well known for causing trouble w/ emotion regulation & strongly emphasizing personality characteristics. Nice!  Anyway... my ex minimizes everything I have (and continue to) go through. |
Ah sweet one.......people can be so cruel
I have also encountered very cruel people in the guise of love or supposed common interests.......and agendas/manipulation abound.
This may sound counterintuitive, but give in......do not enter into conflict with a person that has their own agenda. You cannot win the battle, but you can win the war. As difficult as it sounds, you can walk away, peacefully knowing that it will work out for you and your child. Trust yourself that you can protect.
I speak from experience.......my sons father was very manipulative, in and out of jail, nasty, vicious and extremely vindictive. It was like armageddon every time I had the misfortune of meeting him. Hs family threatened me physically, threatened to kidnap my son and take him back to their country of origin and so on. A very frightening and dark time. My sons father is now dead. He died from a accidental drug overdose Xmas day 2008.
I sincerely do not wish to startle you.....I only mention this due to the fact that I suffered immensely at the hands of a man who did not care for his son, or myself or himself. I wish I had taken my own advice and walked away peacefully, with inner strength and fortitude. I lived with terrible hypervigilance and violence, from both sides.
Take care of self, take care of your child and pay no attention to anything negative he has to say. His negativity is his issue. Do not give anything away you are not prepared to lose......have no expectations of an outcome. Do not hate, but do not love either......Forgive him for you.....so that you can be free.
Love thyself.......and all else shall follow.
We are here........
Mics.