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Old Jan 19, 2010, 06:36 PM
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Originally Posted by CJR520 View Post
I go with my husband to woodworking shows that he loves, to look at tools, etc. and always have. We do a lot together. Last week he was telling me what a good person I am and what a caring person, etc. This week, I never let him look at the things he wants to look at long enough. I act like I am bored because I go to a different section of a store to look at things that I am interested in. I went to a big wood show with him, and he gets upset if I get out of his sight. I am deserting him and not being interested.I sit through seminars with him at these wood shows that I am not even interested in and then, he brings me to tears yesterday when I did not feel well and had a swollen knee from an old accident. He wanted to go from Home Depot to Lowes, etc. while I walk and stand and wait on him to look at tools, etc. I am 60 and he is 63. He gets into these fits of anger over nothing, and I am thinking that he needs to make these trips alone, so I don't have to put up with this. Do the rest of you go through this, too? I just got done making him a nice breakfast and cutting his hair, then the whole rest of the day is ruined with this tantrum he puts on. He just spent the last two years making me miserable with male mid life crisis, then we have to go through this every now and then. I really want to throw in the towel!!!
Have you thought about both of you going to therapy? I got to say that I couldn't sit or have any interest in doing those things either. Why does he get so upset because you don't like doing his things? I compare that to going to a store where you buy tires. I wouldn't want to go and do that. If it was me I would have a talk with him. If that doesn't work try therapy. Sounds like he needs some friends.
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