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Jan 20, 2010, 01:31 PM
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Member Since: Feb 2009
Location: Ontario, Canada
Posts: 12,269
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I know EXACTLY how you feel  - I 'm been there and walked and still am walking in your shoes. I would have said the same thing - "don't tolerate a cheater, kick him to the curb". When I 1st found out, I almost was going to go to a women's shelter with my girls - I felt like I was being emotionally abused and wanted to run. I always tell people now, never make decisions when you're upset. If I would have gone to the women's shelter it would have ruined my childrens lives and thrust them into poverty. They would have gone from living in a beautiful house to living in a room and taken out of their school. Now 3 yrs later I think much differently and I now consider myself on friendly relations and we respect each other.
I applaud your choice to stay and work on your marriage. Talking and sharing is the best thing to do. I think couples give up way to easy today. I also don't believe in being enemies(exceptions being abuse) when a couple splits especially if there are children involved - why do the kids have to pay for the parents mistakes. Best of luck and good for you both .
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