Ugh, this kind of thing really makes me angry. When I first started therapy, T would always say at the end of a phone call or phone message "go and focus on your kids". WTF?! That's ALL I DO! I felt that he thought that the "me" that presents for therapy is the same "me" that is out in the world during the other 167 hours a week. Obviously, I wasn't going to go and sit in the therapy room and be a good mom..my kids weren't even THERE. I finally told him that it upset me and actually hurt my feelings when he said that kind of thing to me, and he understood, and has LITERALLY never said it again in 2 years. SO! I am wondering, can you tell Austin-T what you said here? That you ARE spending time living your life, being with friends your own age, etc. And that you find it condescending that he said that to you.

Deli, isn't Austin-T a CBT therapist? I wonder if he is ABLE to do the trauma work with you. I wonder if his focus is 100% "get out there and live your life!"...when what you are needing is some deeper healing?

As much as I understand the urge to just send a text and never go back, I hope you will let yourself go see him at least one more time, if only to tell him how his statement made you feel. If you don't have that conversation with him, he'll never know.

Ugh, I'm sorry therapy is so complicated. It's hard enough to have to deal with the subject matter we deal with in there...and then throw in the whole "relationship" aspect of therapy and it's almost TOO MUCH, you know?

to you, sweet deli