Hello & Welcome, Livlife!

I suspect there are several "right places" for your post - here is one of them. Other forums where you may find help include Caregivers Support and Relationships & Communication (and others).

Given the duration and depth of your husband's depression, it may be time to look into disability (USA). Although you can apply on your own, working through a lawyer who specializes in disability claims is much easier and statistically much more effective.

Yes, you yourself need support in coping with the depression of a loved one.