For me, Love is really comfortable. I'm not afraid I'll be criticized (even when I criticize myself in my head I'm always surprised he never criticizes me) and I love doing things for my husband, creating little surprises for him. I went to the grocery store alone yesterday morning and when I got back I told him I'd brought him surprises; the first one I gave him was rock salt :-) for if it snows bad again. He enjoys my way of looking at things and I enjoy his enjoyment. We let each other be ourselves and value the other person. I still remember when I had to make a major financial decision myself one afternoon (buy a used car at a gas station) and was able to do it because I heard him in my head, "We're on the same team! I trust your judgment!" If he trusts my judgment, who am I not to? LOL.