Livlif,
I can totally relate to what you are going through, but I'm the one suffering and it's my husband who is walking in your shoes. Both sides of life with depression as awful on both parties. a) your husband didn't ask for the dx and I agree with the pp that it might be time to look into Disability. b) the amount of pressure on you girl is enormous, I know because I look in my husband's eyes and see what he has to cope with. Depression effects every aspect of your life, marriage, job, business, family life, children. My entire life went down the tubes and all my dear husband could do was hold on for dear life for the ride, I am disabled on disability with this all now. has your husband possibly looked at switching medications to see if something could work better for him. I have been trial and error with my meds and I am still suffering. I couldn't work with this condition if I tried, your husband is in a very rock bottom place, I can go for days without showering and brushing my teeth, until my husband forces me to get up and do it. I went from being a fulltime working mom to rock bottom too. you need all the support you can get because it's extremely tough for you to live with your husband in this condition. I think you could benefit from seeing a T to work out things to help your marriage. Sending your big hugs, I can feel for you. Hang on there.